"I have dozens of women, but I did not understand until now that I have been ejaculating too fast. In the past, I did not realize that what I did was normal.All women apologize. "
-Male, 26 years old
"It's better to control it as a treasure. In this way, sexual life is more pleasant, and the self -feelings have changed a lot, not just sex, but all aspects."
-Male, 37 years old
Lack of ejaculation control may be the most common male sexual disorder.The main manifestation of this obstacle is that when men are sexual intercourse, ejaculation is always faster than what they or their partners want, thereby generating terms such as "" "premature ejaculation" "and" "" fast ejaculation "".Although complaints are usually targeted at time-for example, he comes in less than 30 seconds at first-but the real problem is not time, but voluntary control of the ejaculation process.Men lack the right to decide or influence on the timing of ejaculation.When you come, you usually come quickly, and it seems often walking.
It is expected that one -third of American men cannot control the timing of ejaculation, which is millions of giant.Although this obstacle generally affects young men and often improves with age, there are still some 40 -year -old, fifty -year -old, and even older men have this obstacle.I have treated a man, and he was unable to control ejaculation in his life, and even had this obstacle at the age of seventy.I hope you won't wait as long as him to improve ejaculation control.
What is ejaculation control?
Ejaculation is a reflection that cannot be fully controlled. However, men with ability to control ejaculation ability can obtain highly arouses from oral prostitution, masturbation or sexual intercourse in the future of the climax, and he can usually choose when to ejaculate.He can raise his sexuality to a higher level, and then fades more or less until he wants to ejaculate, presents a gentle rising curve.But don't just understand the meaning of the disappearance; in reality, the level of the excitement of men is fluctuating and fluctuating. As he desires and everything that happens, it is until his climax.If it is appropriate, he can also decide to ejaculate quickly.
On the contrary, men who cannot control ejaculation often rise from zero excitement to climax, and there is no fading in the middle.He had to ejaculate quickly, no choice.He cannot enjoy the happiness brought about by highly arouses for a long time.He might try to use some methods to alleviate his excitement-one of the popular practices is to think about other things-but the effect is either bad or not always effective.And his partner is always in a dilemma.She was afraid to stimulate him because it would make him ejaculate immediately.She was also afraid that she was excited during sexual intercourse, because maybe she was done before she was fully satisfied.If she has the ability to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse, she will first desperately reach the climax before he comes, but it is usually futile.After repeated failures, she may no longer be excited.What does it mean to be excited? She would think, if the result was just ignited by the fire, it was cold?Even though she tried to get a climax before he came, the climax was in a hurry in anxiety, and often seemed to be worthless.
Lack of ejaculation control is not terrible, because sexual therapists have been very successful in solving this obstacle.According to many research and clinical practice, 80%to 90%of men have improved ejaculation control through treatment, provided that they are willing to invest in the necessary time and energy.Ejaculation control is a skill or habit. According to the exercises in this chapter, you can learn from 8 to 20 weeks.
Many men who lack good ejaculation control have fantasies. Some people say: "" I want to sex for an hour-no, it takes two to three hours-to ejaculate.I think that feeling must be great, my wife will love me because of this."" "Sexual intercourse often does not exceed one or two minutes of men's fantasy and durable sexual intercourse, it is easy to understand.However, as always, it is important not to be fainted by fantasies.I am not happy for men who have treated sexual intercourse for one hour or or even longer.Their problem is that no matter how long it is inserted, they cannot ejaculate in the women's body.They usually have no great sexual intercourse for 30, forty or sixty minutes.
Maybe you feel that their partners will be ecstatic because of this, but the reality is different.Their partners complained that they always inserted and collided endlessly, vaginal pain, and an incomplete feeling, because although sexual intercourse seemed to be going on forever, men never "" completed in a "" normal way.A single woman who had encountered such a man said: "" "" is really unhappy at all.My spine was pasted on the carpet for a long time, and a row of marks of coin -sized marks were avoided on the back."" Of course, if the couple wants to get pregnant, the problem will be worsened dramaticly.Fortunately, the obstacle of sex therapist called "" delay ejaculation "" "" delayed ejaculation "" is too fast than ejaculation.One of the reasons for luck is that it is much more easy to treat.
There are various forms of expression that lacks ejaculation control.No matter what sexual activities do, some men are unable to control ejaculation.When they masturbate, ejaculation is as fast as ejaculation as ejaculation when they are stimulated by their partners.There are no problems when other people masturbate, but they are not the same as their partners.More people are normal except sex.There is also a difference. Most men who lack ejaculation control have this obstacle for life, and some people have been able to control it, but the former style is no longer.Most men who lack ejaculation control do not have erectile impairment at the same time, but some men have both: difficulty in erection, and ejaculation is usually too fast.Because many exercises to improve ejaculation are required to be erected, men with two obstacles should not try to control ejaculation, but to solve the erectile problem first.Solve urgent problems first.
It is also important that don't think that lack of ejaculation control is always a problem.Whether it constitutes a problem depends on both the couple and the situation at the time.For example, some couples are usually ejaculated in men and women, but no one feels uncomfortable.If they are satisfied, they don't have to worry about it.There are also many men who cannot control ejaculation in front of new partners.During the first few sexual intercourse, he always ejaculated.But then he could control it again.The short phenomenon like this does not seem to be much needed to practice.Men may explain to their partners that their ejaculation will improve after a period of time, or he can postpone the timing of sex with her, until he feels better.
As mentioned in the previous article, some men can control ejaculation well in the past, but now they have lost this control.They have lost their past controls in front of the same woman, or they can no longer be controlled after separating from their partners.It is difficult to say whether these men should do the exercises in this chapter.The practice itself does not hurt people. I have seen some cases with good results, but even in these cases, these exercises seem to be only auxiliary means.For such men, the main problem is in other aspects.It is usually related to the current situation (for example, he feels nervous, or angry, guilty, etc.). It needs to be resolved before the ejaculation control can be recovered.So please do it at ease, but take some time to think about what you are really.To do this, the best way I know is to do conditional exercises in Chapter 6.
A man I have treated is not strong to control ejaculation, but in the last two years of the worsening marriage relationship, it still becomes worse.He did ejaculation control exercises in "Male Sexual Scholarship".After the divorce, he came to treat it because he wanted to be a good lover in front of a new partner.It was found that one of the main conditions for his good ejaculation control was to feel the partner's acceptance and love for himself.This condition is obviously not satisfied, because the marriage has also disintegrated.Even when the conflict between him and his wife was not made public, he felt her anger and hate.Now she has disappeared from her life, and he has made rapid progress while doing the masturbation exercises behind this chapter.While healing, he fell in love with a woman who had known each other for many years.He felt that he was really accepted by her.After two to three courses, his control is much better than ever before.
