A student who wants to apply for a doctoral degree says when talking to us that he treats sexual life as a "homework" to complete.His research work is very heavy, and he has to prepare for the exam. In the face of competition, he must maintain a exciting fighting spirit every day.After returning home, you have to be a very "active man".Therefore, he felt tired, exhausted in his body and mind, and gradually lost interest in sexual life.Another gentleman complained that his wife was too active in sex, but instead extinguished his original conquest desire and enthusiasm, and he was at a loss.
Most men are disturbed because of the inevitable loss of sexual desire after marriage.So often avoid sex, from the original interests to a burden.
In this regard, we must first acknowledge the existence of the problem; and then clearly tell them that the key to the problem is that there is a deviation in psychological adjustment, and there are some fuzzy or wrong understanding.
In order to get rid of the dilemma of sexual life, the following points must be achieved:
1. Sensory contact is not necessarily sexual behavior.
Men generally believe that gender contact must contain sexual intercourse, which is wrong.Sexual life contains many aspects, and may not be accompanied by the excitement of sexual intercourse every time.Women know the facts most: as long as they have some kind of thoughtful sense, it is enough.That is to say, when the wife actively hugs you, it is not necessarily required to be "realistic". Maybe she just wants to find a warm feeling.
