I am a man who has been married shortly, but I can't feel the happiness of marriage at all.
Seeing "Family Doctor", I found that there was finally a complaint.I am 24 years old and got married in October last year.On a wedding night, when he had a business with his wife for the first time, he ejaculated in less than two minutes.When my wife said that when she was needed, my thing could not work, and I said sorry for me.Since then, there was no success. Although my wife didn't say anything, I was too deeply inferior and unhappy every day.I went to the hospital for examination. The doctor took a lamp to look at the penis and said that it was more than 300 yuan for prescribing three medicines. I scared me to run to the hospital again.More money, I didn't check it, so it's so expensive at a glance.
I read a lot of books, about sex and sex, knowing that it is serious premature ejaculation.Several times, maybe it ’s the physiological needs of my wife. She tried to have sex with me, but I ejaculated that I had n’t inserted the penis into the vagina. My wife was uncomfortable.After more than a year, because of this, our feelings have been bad. I work with emotions every day and read books for medicine.
Last week, I tried to have sex with my wife again. I still ejaculated without inserting the vagina. I was so angry that my wife said, "Pigs are incompetent."I have used a lot of medicines, including Liuwei Dihuang Pills and Jin Suo Gu Jing Pills. In the evening, I used asarum, lilac and 95 % of alcohol to soak, and clean the glans. These are seen from the book. There is no adverse reaction.But there is no effect.
Thinking about the past, I think all of this may be the bitter fruit left by overnighting before marriage.
Things have to start from ten years ago.I remember when I was in the second grade, I was obsessed with martial arts novels, and I was fascinated. I always imagined that I had a close relationship with the heroine in the novel. Slowly, I shifted my attention from books to reality.Gradually fell in love with a very beautiful girl in the class.In fact, many boys in the class like her. I have introverted personality. I usually dare not speak to girls. I can only like her secretly, and often dream of falling in love with her one day.
One Sunday night, I remembered her again, and her cute and handsome figure appeared in front of me. I couldn't help treating her thick quilt as her.It was a kind of unprecedented pleasure, and the sticky liquid was also flowed out, which was very comfortable to touch.From then on, as long as I lie on the bed alone, I will fantasize about having sex with the woman I like and experience the kind of ecstasy pleasure. Sometimes it is once every two or three days, sometimes once a day, or even two or three times a day.
After being promoted to the third grade, through learning biological health and other books, I understand some related physiological health knowledge, know that this kind of game I often play is called masturbation, and I know that the masturbation of teenagers is harmful to the body.This surprised me, so I started to control masturbation consciously, but sometimes I couldn't help myself when I saw some men and women in the TV and books.
Every time I masturbate, I will deeply fall into self -blame. When I think of the harm of masturbation, I regret it.But I am like an addictive drug addict, who knows that masturbation is not good, but I still can't help masturbation, especially when I feel bad and bears the pressure, I am indulged in it and cannot extricate myself.
Perhaps it is because of excessive masturbation. Of course, there is also learning pressure. Born in the countryside, the economic conditions in the family are not very good, and nutrition cannot keep up with development. After high school, my body has been poor.
At the same time, because I was obsessed with masturbation, my psychology has also changed a lot. I always feel that I am no longer a good student, but a hooligan that does not know and shame, because I often like to have sex with beautiful female teachers.I feel that I am a dirty and degenerate person. Whenever the teacher praises me, I feel even ashamed and compatible.
Because of so many thoughts, my personality has become more and more introverted. I am very inferior, especially in front of girls. I especially don't dare to face their bright eyes. I am afraid that they will see through my hypocrisy and degeneration.
How many times, when I masturbate, I look forward to the charming scene of the cave and the candle night, but now I am married, but I can't understand its magic and beauty at all. How will all this be solved?How can I get rid of my current confusion and let my marriage go on track?
Doctor comment: The word premature ejaculation is now familiar with everyone, which is also a very taboo thing for men.But we should have an accurate understanding of this word.From the perspective of zoology, in the process of mating, the defense ability is the weakest. Therefore, the faster ejaculation, the more you can avoid the attack of natural enemies, which is conducive to the reproduction of race. In this sense, premature ejaculation is an advantage.EssenceWhen humans are the main content of sexual life, premature ejaculation is not a problem, as long as sperm can combine with eggs.However, with the increase of pleasure and enjoyment in sexual life, premature ejaculation truly plagues the parties in sexual life, but this is only a matter of decades to hundreds of years.Therefore, for the definition of premature ejaculation, no matter from abroad or in China, no matter from which angle is defined, there is currently no recognized standards that can be referred to.
The problem of the protagonist in this article is very representative and can basically reflect the situation of a large number of patients.His inappropriate understanding has the following points.
The first sexual ejaculation of the newlyweds is too fast, and it is considered premature ejaculation.In fact, in the process of first sexual life, it is normal for male ejaculation to be too fast. This is mainly due to the degree of sexual excitement of men and a certain sense of fullness. In addition, there is no sexual experience.Ground control.At the same time, male emotions are excited, and the high -level nervous center controls the disorders of sexual function of sexual function, especially excitement and excitement will cause sexual excitement through the nerve center, causing the nerve reflection excitement of all control erectiles and ejaculation processes prematurely, which is not conducive to the control of ejaculation.So premature ejaculation appeared.
Many patients began to find the cause as soon as they had premature ejaculation, and soon attributed the cause to masturbation, which was common in clinical bosses.In the past, people thought that premature ejaculation was caused by masturbation, especially when teenagers were worried about being discovered when masturbating, and developed the habit of rapid ejaculation, so they were worried about premature ejaculation after marriage, and believed that masturbation was harmful.Psychologists or some sex educators also use this to educate young people and think that this is a fact.However, in recent years, many methods of treating sexual dysfunction abroad have almost been a way of masturbation. Therefore, the correctness of the above theory has been questioned. Some scholars' research conclusions show that at least half of patients with premature ejaculation are premature ejaculation is not premature ejaculation.The cause of the cause has nothing to do with mental tension. Among them, some of them should belong to quality premature ejaculation, and the reaction speed of nerve -induced potentials also supports this.Research on clinical epidemiological surveys found that more than 90%of men have masturbation, and the incidence of premature ejaculation is only about 25%. It supports normal masturbation and will not cause premature ejaculation. At least it is not the only reason for premature ejaculation, and some will even prevent premature ejaculation.This requires that our sexual researchers have a more open attitude towards the cause of premature ejaculation, and it is possible to find more effective treatment and prevention methods for premature ejaculation.
As for the treatment, the protagonist in this article was even more ill. First of all, I was scared away when I went to an irregular hospital.Famous prescriptions have a curative effect on premature ejaculation patients with kidney deficiency, but from the plot described by the article, the patient is mainly psychological and cooperative with his wife.Other methods.
(Editor in charge: Internship Liu Suqiong)
