Tonight, the moonlight looks like water, and the orange light on the bedside is still so warm and still so romantic.
Lying in the husband's arms, no moment is more comfortable, lazy and relaxed than now.My husband looked at my rosy face and whispered: "My & lsquo; sex & rsquo; blessing wife, see how beautiful you nourish you."Deep in my heart, I sincerely admire: it is sex, making our lives so beautiful.
其实，婚前我对性一直有着严重的误区，认为性是肮脏的、不洁的，甚至连“怀孕”、“吻”这些与两性关系有关的字眼也羞于出口，以至当时的男友，现在When my husband discussed the word "carcass" with me, I grabbed him politely: "The carcass, the first explanation on the dictionary refers to the surplus of the head, tail, limbs, internal organs, etc.Some. "At that time, he couldn't cry.
The disgust of sex is due to the experience of my sophomore year.One night of the beginning of the summer, several students and I went to the square to watch fashion performances. They were seeing the rise, and suddenly felt that the hips were held up with a hard thing.On my skirt, I was ashamed and scared at the time, and I didn't know what to do.When I returned to the dormitory, I told this matter. Everyone expressed sympathy for me. Some students who had some "precocious" told me that the hot things were called "semen", which was sprayed from the man's "that thing".EssenceLooking at the fishy skirt, I suddenly felt disgusting.
After graduating from college, I returned to my hometown small town. Although it is the age of marriage, I am still avoiding love and avoiding evil men.Until I encountered Jie who was interested in my interest.
When I was in love, I frankly told Jie's experience of the experience of the sophomore, Jie said nothing, but just held my hand with his hand, my eyes were full of tolerance and comfort.During this time, Jie always took care of me with a gentleman, led my hand, patted my shoulders, kissed my cheeks, but never did a move that made me unhappy.I was really moved and proud of my heart. I was fortunate to find such a understanding boyfriend.
On the day of the marriage, I sent all the guests of He Xi, and Jierou said: "After a day of tired, let's rest early." "Early rest, that is not to sleep with him in a bed, and to do that, and do that to do thatThings? My GOD, have you made mistakes? "I secretly thought about it."Oh! Who asked us to marry others, this is both responsibility and obligation." I also mocked myself.
Just as I thought about it, Jie Lengbu Ding held me up, kissed me deeply, and walked towards the bed."Oh my god, I'm finished." I lamented in my heart, closed my eyes and waited for the disaster scene.However, after putting me on the bed, she didn't rush to act, but held me and read the first love poem that he wrote to me.With his groaning, I seemed to return to the beautiful time of the spiritual love, and couldn't help swaying.At this time, he kissed me from time to time to soothe me. In his big upstream and downstream movement, my psychological defense collapsed a little bit until it was completely disintegrated.In the innocence of each other, we have completed the thorough integration of spirit to meat.Strangely, this time, I didn't have that disgusting feeling at all.I quietly told him that Jie Bian sorted out the messy hair for me, and said quietly: "We are the way of love, it is morality and the law recognition, so it can be perfectly combined, and that kind of regardless of occasion, harassment, harassment, harassment, harassment, harassmentWomen's men are ugly and of course disgusting. "During the entire honeymoon, in addition to the necessary entertainment, I spent most of my time staying in the new house to enjoy the love of fish and water.Under his guidance, I let go of my initial shy mood, tried to kiss him, soothe him, and shared with him the fluttering beauty feeling.
Shortly after the honeymoon, Jiejie went to the neighboring market to be responsible for the business of the branch. The two places were only 100 kilometers apart. However, when I went to the town where I worked, I had to go three times and traveled for more than two hours.EssenceIt seems that the romantic expectations of love "ears and twilight" before marriage have become bubbles.Looking at the equally disappointed husband, I had to make a smile to comfort him: "If the two feelings are long, how can it be in the dilemma."
Having said that, it is not good for a person to keep the empty room alone. Every night, when I come, I always think of those warm and beautiful situations in the past.
Finally, for the first time, after five days of "disappearing", he returned to me.I can read the fiery feelings in his eyes, the fiery desire.In his hands and downstream, my silence in my body was ignited again, kissed him involuntarily, stroked him, and longed for him to reach that kind of state like me.However, just as I was on the verge of pleasure, I suddenly realized that a heat flow came from the lower body.The husband told me awkwardly that he had ejaculated.
It is on the edge of happiness but cannot get pleasure. I feel that I am "hanged" in that very annoying situation.Deep in my heart, how much I want to be a real "sex" blessing woman, but in reality, I do n’t live in this way, and I am a little distressed.
When it was dawn, my husband held me and wanted me.However, I was controlled by last night's emotions, and I couldn't enter the state, and my husband walked with a gray face.
The second week is still the same, I have a little doubt whether I can't do it, or my husband has ejaculated.During this period, I read the science books such as "Family Doctor" and learned some sexual knowledge.
In the third week, I changed my strategy. When my husband returned home, I first made a few handy dishes to taste with him.After meals, we took advantage of the moonlight to stroll on the road in the country.Aside from all the trivial matters, we seemed to return to the beautiful days when we first love. Unconsciously, I held Jie's arm, and Jie also held me with his wide arms.
After returning home, he twisted the orange -red lamp on the bedside. My heart led the gods and knew that my husband "miss me" again.This time, we didn't rush to act, we couldn't wait to release ourselves. I read the new poems I wrote for him, and my husband set up a romantic and soft night song.The moment the four eyes were relative, I felt the tenderness that was impossible to make the opponent's eyes.My husband kissed my eyebrows, my eyes, my lips & hellip; & hellip;
In the most important "juncture", the husband took out a small box with a very delicate packaging and slowly peeled away. "Dear, what is this?" "This is a condom. It is said that it can both contraception and reduce sex sensitivityA degree, it can be described as two units. "The husband smiled slyly.
That night was the first harmonious and romantic night after we were separated.After that, the husband admitted that no sex of sex was unfortunate. In marriage, disagreement sex was helpless.Every time I see that I was put on the point where I couldn't stand, I was distressed, and he was even more uncomfortable. The husband and wife would be "blessing". If you can't make his wife a "sex" blessing woman, what does it mean to be a man.
I heard this, I was very moved.The husband also said, "After returning, I read a lot of magazines and asked a doctor for consultation. Knowing that this is not a big problem, the key is to adapt slowly. When not adapting, you can use a condomYou can also contraception. Now, I want to collect the & lsquo; Xiaoya & rsquo; wait for the cherry blossoms next year, and then give birth to a little baby, okay? "
Since then, my husband and I have never worried about sex. We have learned a lot of skills while studying, while studying, while learning, we have learned a lot of skills.Every time I have sex, my husband is always glowing, and my face is rosy and my skin is delicate.At this time, the husband always said shamelessly: "Wife, this is the result of our hard work."
Expert comment: There are two main problems that plague men and women: sexual harassment and premature ejaculation.
First, sexual harassment is generally a problem that plagues women.This term is now well known, but what is its inner mechanism?Some experts hold the perspective of evolutionary psychology. According to this point of view, on the issue of sexual harassment, humans also have the inheritance of animals: men prefer to harass those young, beautiful, and lone women, trying to eventually have sexual relationships.
However, this view is resolutely opposed by feminists, and they attach great importance to the strong role of socialization in forming gender and gender roles.As far as the maintenance of traditional society is concerned, it is precisely: male characters should be more aggressive, competitive, stronger and more powerful, and female characters should emphasize raising and bending.Therefore, society trains men and women.The third point is the integration model, that is, integrate feminism and evolutionary biology theory.
Regardless of the theory, as far as the heroine of this article is concerned, after being sexually harassed, she feels extremely disgusted and even forms a psychological shadow. When she is in the same room with her husband, she can get the love of fish and water.It stands to reason that the same room has a more negative impact on women's bodies than sexual harassment, but the result is the opposite. Why is this?In fact, the difference between the two is not the problem of sexual satisfaction, but respect the other party's problem.
Sexual harassment is not only the personal rights of women, but it violates the dignity unique to our human beings.These are actually not much related to sex, and sex is just a carrier.Similarly, the suffering of the victim is not only a matter of personality, but because she was entangled and insulted, and felt that her dignity was forcibly deprived by others.When she was in the same room with her husband, she felt respect, her husband respected her sexual will, and respected her sexual rights.
Second, premature ejaculation, this problem is even more troublesome to men.Since 1970? Masters and JOHNSON defined premature ejaculation as the duration of ejaculation during sexual intercourse? It is maintained to the frequency that can satisfy the spouse, less than 50 % of the premature ejaculation.In the future, the definition of premature ejaculation continues to appear. Modern medicine provides a reference standard: the normal period of ejaculation is about 2 to 6 minutes. Healthy adults are ejaculating at about 2 to 6 minutes of sexual intercourse, which is normal.
Some scholars believe that fast ejaculation is normal. This comes from hypotheses of biological evolution? It is believed that the rapid ejaculation of higher mammals can help expand reproduction and reduce the danger of being hunted.However, as sexuality is liberated from the purpose of reproduction, the sexual pleasure function has been strengthened, and premature ejaculation is becoming more and less unacceptable.
There are several reasons after being separated for a period of time separately: there are several reasons:
①The sexual excitement is too high, semen accumulation stimulation? It can produce a certain amount of satiety and stimulation, and the sexual function is unstable.
② Spiritual interference.Xiaobei is newly married, and the couple are emotional, especially the emotional emotional emotional, which is not conducive to the control of ejaculation.
③ The ejaculation time appears fast and slow, and there is a negative relationship between the length of the interval between sexual intercourse.The sexual interval time is short, and the ejaculation is slow. If the sexual interval is relatively long, the ejaculation is relatively faster.
Fortunately, the protagonist of this article adopts a positive attitude towards the problems between husband and wife, so as to regain the love of fish and water.However, not everyone has this level.As for the short -term separation couples (as the social liquidity increases, there are more and more couples in this weekend) how to overcome premature ejaculation (in fact, the diagnosis of premature ejaculation is a more complicated process), the following methods are recommended.
① Change the sexual intercourse position of habit.
② Properly increase the number of sexual life. It is generally believed that if you adjust to the level of about twice a week, premature ejaculation may be relieved or disappeared.
③ Try to improve the ability of penile tolerance to local stimuli.The purpose of self -training is used to re -establish a highly physiological reflection of "threshold" of ejaculation.
(Editor in charge: Internship Liu Suqiong)
